Something that I've seen lately that's got me a little worried is the floundering new wife, which is occuring in a lot of my friends lives. I'm observing it indirectly and then kind of analyzing my own feelings. (if you're a new wife and you're doing one of the following it doesn't mean your're experiencing what I'm writing about. If you are doing all of the things that I sugguest then you might be and you should take a minute to think about it)
Pure Observation: New Wife/ New mom
-Hair School... do you really want to do hair? If so, stick with it.
-Selling crappy jewelry that is really overpriced. Why?
-Starting study at home programs that are supposed to take a year and then quitting them after a month or even just a couple weeks.
-Not working, but not momming either
Some of my own feelings:
After I got married a new set of responsibility settled down on my shoulders, and an anxiety also accompanied it for preparation for the future. I felt as though what was expected of me didn't just simply change, but expectation was increased. Even though it had been previously discussed and decided to wait the thought of motherhood came to mind more frequently. (Still waiting- no worries or excitement for the readers)
Choice of specified and intense study needed to occur so that I could assist my husband in making our dreams come true. But which direction was best for us?
These sorts of thoughts and feelings flowed my mind.
All I'm really saying is if these particular women that I'm observing- if they are hurrying from one program to the next without finishing anything they will not be prepared. The importance of making a good, solid, responsible decision is going to impact your abilities later.
1. Do get an education- do find a field or hobby that will enrich your life and your future.
2. Build a strong foundation of service and revelation with your Father in heaven- he will direct thy paths so you don't have to be so far from where you NEED to be.
3. Realize what matters most: Serving the Lord, and your family- the rest can fall away.
4. Take the effort to prepare spiritually so you can hear the promptings of when it is right for you and your husband to start building a bigger family.
obviously, I haven't become any less opinionated. and I suppose if you're running from one thing to the next- if it's keeping you going and happy then maybe that's its purpose. My ranting today is mostly centered to me and how I would like to create my path- you can only know what you experience.
12.07.2011
11.15.2011
Hater Blockers
Have you ever been completely enveloped in a thought process that you know wasn't the right one for you to be emerged in at this point in your life? Have you ever had to force yourself away from thinking about that one thing? Ugh. My question is why? why does it have to be so tricky to control your mind into being somewhere pleasant? Why, when then world comes crashing down and then something beautiful happens, why are you still thinking about the disaster instead of the beauty. It even happens when the beauty is exponentially bigger than the disaster. I feel like our minds feed off negativity. I hate this.
One thing that I've found that works awesome in temple attendance. I feel as though when we're in the walls of the temple a peace surrounds us and protects us from the evil thought planters and whisperers of our time.
Scripture study, also, if done deep enough offers the same relief. The tricky part is keeping yourself planted firmly in these places.
Prayer changes my position from selfish to selfless. I try to pray often, but I guess the secret is to always have a prayer in your heart. Not ever 4 hours- but always.
I want to increase the amount of awareness that I have of the presence of the holy ghost so much. I want to focus on increasing the spirit in my home. I've done it with art work. I've done it with ambiance. I've done it with music.
A couple weeks ago in relief society the teacher brought up the fact that in the ressurection that we will bind satan with our righteousness. This is something that I find my impatience can work well for. I want to bind satan now. Not in a prideful righteous way- but in a way that I know I am working as absolutely hard as I can. I want to have an A for effort in this pursuit. So, currently, I'm working on a game plan to accomplish this and feed this effort.
I know it can work if I exercise the right amount of faith in christ and in his power.
One thing that I've found that works awesome in temple attendance. I feel as though when we're in the walls of the temple a peace surrounds us and protects us from the evil thought planters and whisperers of our time.
Scripture study, also, if done deep enough offers the same relief. The tricky part is keeping yourself planted firmly in these places.
Prayer changes my position from selfish to selfless. I try to pray often, but I guess the secret is to always have a prayer in your heart. Not ever 4 hours- but always.
I want to increase the amount of awareness that I have of the presence of the holy ghost so much. I want to focus on increasing the spirit in my home. I've done it with art work. I've done it with ambiance. I've done it with music.
A couple weeks ago in relief society the teacher brought up the fact that in the ressurection that we will bind satan with our righteousness. This is something that I find my impatience can work well for. I want to bind satan now. Not in a prideful righteous way- but in a way that I know I am working as absolutely hard as I can. I want to have an A for effort in this pursuit. So, currently, I'm working on a game plan to accomplish this and feed this effort.
I know it can work if I exercise the right amount of faith in christ and in his power.
11.11.2011
truth
... This is where I am at.
Looking for something I've never seen- The Fray
Learning new songs on the guitar is SO GOOD- yet strangley, for some reason this is always the time that my nails have grown out in perfection. So i go back and forth : Manicure or new song?
Today it's my birthday and our office was closed so I played pretend. I imagined that I wasn't a student. I wasn't an employee. I wasn't anything but me. and... it's been amazing so far. I had a McGriddle for breakfast= amazing. I cleaned my kitchen and my bathroom. I rearanged my bedroom furniture (once a season to keep things fresh) Some people might think- who would want to torture themselves with housework on such a special day. *ME* I love cleaning. It's so good to me. I relaxed. I danced in my living room in my pajamas. I watched the new episode of Grey's Anatomy and HOLY CRAP it was intense. I ate pasta (i shoul've been italian). and later- thai for dinner, shopping for gifts, and a small gathering with all my besties.
Getting older- 25, in my head means full fledged adult. GROSS!
Never never.
Looking for something I've never seen- The Fray
Learning new songs on the guitar is SO GOOD- yet strangley, for some reason this is always the time that my nails have grown out in perfection. So i go back and forth : Manicure or new song?
Today it's my birthday and our office was closed so I played pretend. I imagined that I wasn't a student. I wasn't an employee. I wasn't anything but me. and... it's been amazing so far. I had a McGriddle for breakfast= amazing. I cleaned my kitchen and my bathroom. I rearanged my bedroom furniture (once a season to keep things fresh) Some people might think- who would want to torture themselves with housework on such a special day. *ME* I love cleaning. It's so good to me. I relaxed. I danced in my living room in my pajamas. I watched the new episode of Grey's Anatomy and HOLY CRAP it was intense. I ate pasta (i shoul've been italian). and later- thai for dinner, shopping for gifts, and a small gathering with all my besties.
Getting older- 25, in my head means full fledged adult. GROSS!
Never never.
10.19.2011
not dead
Married life= amazing. Things that I didn't consider before marriage was that transitions are hard for me. Surprise!
Getting comfy in my role as: teacher, wife, homemaker, employee, student, big sister, new daughter.
I've been busier and more industrious than I ever have in my whole life. And about once a week I take a breather and realize that even though I'm standing still everything around me is still moving.
Over the weekend we went to Cali to see one of my husband's friends get married and we had a pool party in a hotel pool and we made a whirl pool. Despite the fact that we may have stopped swimming for a brief moment the momentum kept us in motion. That is the story of my life.
Amazing things have taken course over that last couple of weeks. Felt opposition- took it out with faith. After my triumph gained super awesome insight.
And so the fight was worth it. I'm in love with the gospel. I love the Holy Ghost and the promptings and whisperings that it delivers. I'm most grateful for the fact that he can point out what I wouldn't normally see as a dynamic moment in time.
Jesus Christ is my redeemer and healer. Direct faith in him creates the ability to over come anything. Which is awesome!
Things I'm excited for: Graduating from the business college this year. Teaching my class and Speaking on sunday, & Singing this christmas, Taking voice and piano lessons to remind my body of how I once was an instrument.
Scriptures= best gift God could give to us. Study them.
Anywho: you know me. I love Jesus, I love my family new and old, I love music, I love art.
Getting comfy in my role as: teacher, wife, homemaker, employee, student, big sister, new daughter.
I've been busier and more industrious than I ever have in my whole life. And about once a week I take a breather and realize that even though I'm standing still everything around me is still moving.
Over the weekend we went to Cali to see one of my husband's friends get married and we had a pool party in a hotel pool and we made a whirl pool. Despite the fact that we may have stopped swimming for a brief moment the momentum kept us in motion. That is the story of my life.
Amazing things have taken course over that last couple of weeks. Felt opposition- took it out with faith. After my triumph gained super awesome insight.
And so the fight was worth it. I'm in love with the gospel. I love the Holy Ghost and the promptings and whisperings that it delivers. I'm most grateful for the fact that he can point out what I wouldn't normally see as a dynamic moment in time.
Jesus Christ is my redeemer and healer. Direct faith in him creates the ability to over come anything. Which is awesome!
Things I'm excited for: Graduating from the business college this year. Teaching my class and Speaking on sunday, & Singing this christmas, Taking voice and piano lessons to remind my body of how I once was an instrument.
Scriptures= best gift God could give to us. Study them.
Anywho: you know me. I love Jesus, I love my family new and old, I love music, I love art.
7.02.2011
anticipation is growing
Have you ever wanted something- so much that the time before it seems like this meaningless thing that you waste wishing for the next thing?
why do we do that? why do we skip steps- maybe I'm learning why its important to be patient. Patience doesn't just allow you to wait for something in a calm manner- but if offers experiencing the whole thing, itemized minute for minute, instead of just wasting what you've got for what you want.
Patience is a virtue.
Things are coming together, which is awesome! I'm getting super excited for things!!!! Bueno!
why do we do that? why do we skip steps- maybe I'm learning why its important to be patient. Patience doesn't just allow you to wait for something in a calm manner- but if offers experiencing the whole thing, itemized minute for minute, instead of just wasting what you've got for what you want.
Patience is a virtue.
Things are coming together, which is awesome! I'm getting super excited for things!!!! Bueno!
6.25.2011
Idea/ Accomplishment
I've decided that I think its the ideas that are hard to achieve not the event.
I think anyone can do things if they set their mind to it. I think the tricky thing is the byproduct of the result. For example, a diet would make you lose weight- the the tough thing to gain from it is self control.
So its the virtues and talents that are developing- this is the hard part, this is the mortal experience. Not the graduation, or the being fit, or the clothes you wear, or the money you make, or even the accomplishments that you have- its the development of virtue.
The dependance upon the Savior to forgive. The getting to know yourself well enough to know your strengths and weaknesses. the gaining of charity.
"in all thy getting, get understanding"- Proverbs 4:7
Life's tricky- Society wants you to do things- God wants you to understand things.
I think anyone can do things if they set their mind to it. I think the tricky thing is the byproduct of the result. For example, a diet would make you lose weight- the the tough thing to gain from it is self control.
So its the virtues and talents that are developing- this is the hard part, this is the mortal experience. Not the graduation, or the being fit, or the clothes you wear, or the money you make, or even the accomplishments that you have- its the development of virtue.
The dependance upon the Savior to forgive. The getting to know yourself well enough to know your strengths and weaknesses. the gaining of charity.
"in all thy getting, get understanding"- Proverbs 4:7
Life's tricky- Society wants you to do things- God wants you to understand things.
6.16.2011
K-OS
Things that are true, that I never thought would be true: david's bridal is coming through for me with the little things and my selection- in even what I actually want isn't over priced... It's pretty impressive.
c.r.u.n.c.h. time.
I think I realized how much time I don't have today and I had a mental breakdown- but then I got into ultra dianna planner mode and I make the skeleton of how things are going to go- and I felt a lot better after my 2-3 hr tribute to roping in details.
I remembered important things in my heart today even when my head was bobbling all about- which is the most important part.
I remember that through the appropriate focused attention anything is possible.
For that, I'm grateful.
Men and Women are such different creatures- these are things that I'm learning. Different things hold value, both emotional and material. It's interesting.
two people can be so alike and so different all at the same time- thank goodness for common ground, but also thank goodness for difference or else life would be freakin boring!
c.r.u.n.c.h. time.
I think I realized how much time I don't have today and I had a mental breakdown- but then I got into ultra dianna planner mode and I make the skeleton of how things are going to go- and I felt a lot better after my 2-3 hr tribute to roping in details.
I remembered important things in my heart today even when my head was bobbling all about- which is the most important part.
I remember that through the appropriate focused attention anything is possible.
For that, I'm grateful.
Men and Women are such different creatures- these are things that I'm learning. Different things hold value, both emotional and material. It's interesting.
two people can be so alike and so different all at the same time- thank goodness for common ground, but also thank goodness for difference or else life would be freakin boring!
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